It’s often difficult to be a fan of your own self. In fact, therapists have observed how we often put ourselves down by telling ourselves unhealthy beliefs and lies.
Also called ‘cognitive distortions,’ these untrue assumptions can result in negative effects on our mental health and fill ourselves with self-doubt. The first step to conquering these thoughts is to recognize them when they appear.
Here are ‘lies’ you should stop telling yourself to make you mentally stronger.
Not Good Enough
We’ve all thought we weren’t good enough to do certain things at one point in time. It becomes a form of self-sabotage, though when this thought prevents you from actually giving your dreams or goals a try.
It’s time to stop telling yourself this lie and allow yourself to work on the life you dream of living.
Lack of Willpower
Another damaging lie we tell ourselves is that we lack the willpower to accomplish things. The reality is that everyone has willpower.
The challenge is how you can preserve yours to last through the time it takes for you to finish something, whether it’s a diet program or a difficult task at work. Don’t let the lie of having no willpower turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy for you.
Blaming Other People
There are instances when other people’s decisions and opinions of you might stop you from achieving things like promotions or raises. However, this shouldn’t be a reason for you to discourage yourself entirely and think that people would always be holding you back from your dreams.
Getting into that mindset would only set you up for failure and prevent you from building a support team of people who actually believe in you.
Being Too Different
All of us want to fit in and feel like we belong. Still, you should know that standing out from the crowd can also be a good thing for you.
Don’t take things too overboard, though, and believe that you’re too different to succeed. There are ways you can use your unique qualities or skills to your advantage.
Mental Health in the Way
If you struggle with a mental health condition like depression or anxiety, it’s sometimes unavoidable to get sucked into the belief that these issues would forever keep you from being your best self.
The thing is you can overcome mental health problems in a similar way that you deal with physical health issues. Build your mental strength by doing mind exercises regularly.